If you're anything like me, you are no stranger to rejection. Whether it's an ex, a school, a program, etc., rejection is really tough to deal with and can wreak havoc on your esteem, your momentum and your emotions. Not to mention your ego.
Between December of 2015 and the entire first quarter of 2016, I have submitted to a myriad of things. I've auditioned for things as an actress and performer, I have sent my own writing and client screenplays to contests. I have submitted to producer workshops, applied to the DGA Trainee program and so on. I must say, that though I've booked some things, basically I've gotten that infamous "we regret to inform you" notice more times than I care to admit.
Recently I was working on a document for something and had just opened yet another rejection notice. I immediately was like 'why am I even going to bother with this one-sheet at this point? I keep applying, only to keep hearing "NO" when I know I'm qualified and should be considered for this stuff.' Upon hearing me speak in this defeated tone and with such negative conviction, someone very close to me immediately told me to stop it. They reminded me that I've gotten my share of successes and that the rejections are only reminders to rebound even harder.
How many times have you wished, prayed and hoped for something that was truly significant to you, only to get let down by being shut down? That's okay. We are human. And end of the day, you of course will feel a way about the word no. BUT the key to success is not settling for that. Understanding that it's not no to you, but likely "wait because I have something better for you" according to the creator (whomever you believe in and/or follow). What is yours is undeniably yours. That's just how it is. So whether it's no or not right now, that doesn't mean you won't win ultimately. It only means maybe you need more grooming, more insight, or maybe that situation would be ultimately detrimental to you in the long run, so you just unknowingly dodged a bullet!
Shining Starrs...denied is not destiny denial, it's likely deferment for something better that will get you there either faster or more prepared. And being as though I strongly believe that we frame our world by the words we speak, I encourage you to not only keep pushing for your dreams to become your reality, but also for you to speak that way too. You didn't get that job, that promotion, that date, that festival, that program opportunity? That's alright. You KEEP GOING! Keep speaking your success and progress into existence. Keep believing in your talent and destiny and keep operating in your purpose. Your day is written already, so the only thing you should wonder is how amazing will you be once it gets there.
Go shine Starrs. Go forth and be great, but be patient and diligent until your time comes and be gentle with yourself as well. Complacency has no place in your life, as that's you denying YOURSELF, so don't settle. But know that celebrating the wins of others while waiting for your own is a key to expediting your time. If you are working hard and also celebrating with and for others, time passes much faster for you!
Tell us what you are waiting on. And share how you overcame a no, to journey towards your YES. I look forward to your stories!
With love, kindness and anticipation of your greatness manifested...